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  • Somehow, we still tolerate each other. Eventually this will be the only forum left.
Somehow, we still tolerate each other. Eventually this will be the only forum left.
 #16472  by SineSwiper
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 12:33 am
<div style='font: 10pt "EngraversGothic BT", "Copperplate Gothic Light", "Century Gothic"; text-align: left; '>Settling down. She was not ready to settle down. Given the age bracket, it's a common problem, though it's usually the other way around.

You were good to go. I imagine you'd gotten a lot of chicks back in the day, so getting into the groove of being a real husband was a change for you, so you were ready. You were probably already tired of playing the game. (I think you've said so in ICQ conversations.) She was a former player herself, if I remember correctly. So it seemed like a good match, but usually getting a player in the mood to settle down is harder than usually, doubly so for two players. Getting a player in their prime domesticated is even harder. (Remember, males hit their prime at 16-18. Females are around 22-24.)

Man, I wished you talked about it sooner. Knowing the problem is half of fixing the problem. Then again, hindsight is 20/20.</div>

 #16473  by G-man Joe
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 7:59 am
<div style='font: 11pt "Fine Hand"; text-align: left; '>You don't HAVE to move in with her. That's a fallacy. Many live-in's who get married still end up divorced. More so than those who didn't live in.</div>

 #16474  by Lox
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 8:08 am
<div style='font: bold 9pt ; text-align: left; '>I heard on the radio that statistically, people who move in together are more likely to get divorced if they get married, unless they move in together already planning on getting married in which case they have the same probability of divorcing as a couple who doesn't move in together. :)</div>

 #16476  by Agent 57
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 9:16 am
<div style='font: 9pt ; text-align: left; '>Yeah, sign up for the free newsletters. There should be a link at his site (and it's doubleyourdating.net).</div>

 #16477  by Kupek
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 9:19 am
<div style='font: 10pt verdana; text-align: left; padding: 0% 10% 0% 10%; '>People who won't live with each other before marrying are probably less likely to consider divorce an option for religious reasons, blah blah blah, I think we've done this one before.</div>

 #16478  by Kupek
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 9:22 am
<div style='font: 10pt verdana; text-align: left; padding: 0% 10% 0% 10%; '>I actually agree with most of that.</div>

 #16479  by Agent 57
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 9:23 am
<div style='font: 9pt ; text-align: left; '>Yeah, sign up for the free newsletters, which have the basics in there.  There should be a link at his site (and it's doubleyourdating.net).</div>

 #16480  by G-man Joe
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 10:41 am
<div style='font: 11pt "Fine Hand"; text-align: left; '>I know. But you know about those "Damn Statistics!"</div>

 #16482  by Ishamael
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 12:11 pm
<div style='font: 14pt "Sans Serif"; text-align: justify; padding: 0% 15% 0% 15%; '>I suggest not moving in, though that may just part of my personality. Space = a good thing, especially at this stage of your life....</div>

 #16485  by Gentz
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 12:52 pm
<div style='font: 11pt arial; text-align: left; '>Mmyes....Indeed...Quite right...I say....</div>
 #16486  by Gentz
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 1:00 pm
<div style='font: 11pt arial; text-align: left; '>At the very least, you can now just cut your losses and work on starting over. Personally, I'm being dragged through the mud by my ex-girlfriend at the moment.</div>
 #16490  by Julius Seeker
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 3:24 pm
<div style='font: 12pt ; text-align: left; '>Girls are just one thing in life. Often relationships can be a battle; a battle for dominance and control, even if it is just subconscious. One member of the relationship generally finds themselves doing a lot for the other person, not as a favour or gift anymore, but because they are supposed to, it's an expectation. The person who becomes expected to do these things normally cares a lot about what the other thinks about them, and the other persons wishes and delights become more important to them than their own wishes and delights; it's the same with a lot of friendships as well. By your post, it sounds to me like you were in one of those battles, and I'm sorry to say Eric, but you lost that battle.

Now's your opportunity to pick up the pieces, you don't need to care about what she thinks anymore, it's time to take back your own life. What has happened, is that I think you have forgotten about how great life is, how many damn opportunities there are to live well. There's a world here, and you have your own town/city, there are probably a million opportunities there alone. take back yourlife, remove the bitch straps and be the man. Remember, she's just a girl, that's all she'll ever be, but in your life you are THE man, no one is more important to you than yourself, if you don't love yourself more than anything, than you're missing out big time on enjoying life to its fullest. Now, I'm not going to tell you what was wrong with your relationship, that doesn't even really matter anymore, it's over done. Seriously, give yourself some more self respect than wanting a girl like that, even if you did go out with her fro three years, even five, even twenty. You have no kids, no obligations. Judging by your situation, it sounds to me like that relationship ending was the best thing that has happened in your life in a while.

Now come on, it may have been a while since you got to use your game, but you can pick it up. Well, this is all simple enough if you put the effort into it, and if you are serious about the game, you will. First of all, you need your links, and since your friends aren't going to be reliable in this case then it might be a good idea to seek out a job, you have two classes, you have the time to work part time. That's a way to get some quick cash, a bit of cash is all you really need. Next stick around and talk to people in class or work, and try to get some of them to go out to the clubs or bars some night. From there you pretty much have a good chance of meeting at least a few new people, maybe make a lunch date and ask how you can reach her; if she says no, or some BS excuse, big deal, wait a few minutes and then move on, or if the bar is small, move to a different bar. Anyways, here are 10 basic game tips for now:

1) Say her name as much as possible in reasonable limits (otherwise you'll sound a bit moronic), everyone loves to hear their name said.
2) Smile and be sure to look her in the eyes, everyone likes that, she will too.
3) When ttalking about yourself, talk about things that the two of you have done since you started going out, and if it is right at the beginning of things, and you're talking about yourself, make it about the future. Talking about the past which doesn't really involve her in any way is boring; think about how you instinctively tune yourself out when girls talk about things for hours and hours and hours (or so it seems) about things you care absolutely nothing about, sometimes you want to die, even if she is drop dead hot.
4) Little gifts can be nice, sending some flowers or chocolate to her work place is good, just sending a gift will get a little bit of a response, but sending it to her work will get you places =)
5) Never say things that are negative about you, her, or anything like that, if she corners you on a conversation say, about some sport you don't play (but it can be anything), like Hockey, instead of saying "I suck at hockey" or "I don't play hockey" say "It's actually something I'd like to try some day.". Same thing goes with cooking "I'd like to learn how to cook this..." guitar, and just about anything.
6) Compliments can be good and bad; compliments like "I like your eyes" or "I like your smile" are just saying to her "nice face, lets fuck!" kind of a turn off, but saying something like "Those are fairly cool shoes" or "That's a nice outfit" works differently, since girls put effort into buying their shoes and getting the right outfit, they see that as a compliment on the effort, and not just a line to get into her pants.
7) When bumnping into a girl and trying to get her to go out with you, a number is not enough. Get the date, and then ask "Is there a way I can reach you?" Think of it this way, when you get a girls number, does that really mean anything more than just a trophy that you'll probably never use because you know a better girl anyways? Well, girls tend to have big crushes on people who they will never ever get, and you're just secondary to them if anything unless you actually have a date with her. If you catch my drift.
8) Don't worry too much about talking, most of the good girls are the type who love to talk the most. Be a man of few and meaningful words, like James Bond. Use your game, get her to reveal things about herself and then use that to your advantage. The most basic game plan, find out her opinions and then agree with them and push the conversation forth from there. The cool thing about being a dude is that game usually comes naturally =)
9) Another basic game plan, kind of an expansion of above, whenever she asks you about your future, jump on it and sound as reasonably ambitious as possible, but on top of direction, make it seem like you are keeping a wide variety of options open.
10) Lastly, when girls talk about jokes, they often mention who said it; that's a hint that they are thinking fondly about the person who said it. Guys are the same way, but we never mention where we heard the joke,it's part of our nature, it just doesn't matter to us. Anyways, here's a joke you can use, and I guarantee you that no one has heard it before. We'll use Sine as the name of the main character just to simplify things:

Sine is on a trip to South America and decides to go to a nude beach. Unfortuanately no one speaks English there, and Sine doesn't speak a word of Spanish. While at the beach he gets with a girl who knows English, but no Spanish, she says "You need a rubber before we go any further." Unfortuanately, neither of them have one, and in South America they are very rare to find, but on this particular beach there is a convenient store which sells them. "Just go to the convenient store, give them this dollar and put your cock on the counter, he'll know what you mean." Sine seems a bit surprised, this doesn't sound like a good idea to him, so he takes the dollar and goes to the convenient store, and comes back after with no condom, "where is the rubber?" she asks: "Well I did exactly as you said, I took my dick and put it on the counter, and then I put the dollar on the counter. The shop keep then put his dick on the counter, and well.... His was bigger so he kept my dollar."


Come on Eric, I know you want to try some of these gameplay tips out. They're fun =)

Anyways, as some parting words, don't waste your time being upset, get out there and do something fun; life's too short to spend time being upset, and life is too important to throw away over another person; that's just kind of stupid, don't you think? Come on, be the man, and play the game.</div>

 #16495  by SineSwiper
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 9:40 pm
<div style='font: 10pt "EngraversGothic BT", "Copperplate Gothic Light", "Century Gothic"; text-align: left; '>One, Eric knows the game well. Two, you're jumping ahead on yourself. You're a psych major, for Christ's sake!</div>

 #16496  by SineSwiper
 Fri Jun 04, 2004 9:43 pm
<div style='font: 10pt "EngraversGothic BT", "Copperplate Gothic Light", "Century Gothic"; text-align: left; '>Shock!</div>

 #16498  by M'k'n'zy
 Sat Jun 05, 2004 12:05 am
<div style='font: 9pt "copperplate gothic light"; text-align: left; '>My friend, I honestly dont know what to say, all I can say is that if you need to talk, I am here for you anytime.</div>

 #16519  by Julius Seeker
 Sun Jun 06, 2004 10:10 am
<div style='font: 12pt ; text-align: left; '>Relax, I'm just giving him a few pointers in case he's fallen out of touch. It is better to live and learn, move on, than it is to uselessly dwell in the past.</div>