The Shrine

Since we sometimes open up about our lives I felt like giving a small update.

I finished my 2nd year of college, 2 + more years to go. Me and my girlfriend broke up before the quarter ended. Creole / Black women are drama. I ended up feeling sad at 1st, but I realized I had missed out hanging out with friends during the course of our relationship, and she wasn't quite right for me.

So I moved home for summer. I was suppose to get a job transfer but that shit never works. I looked for a job but everyone was not up for the whole temp summer thing. I ended up doing freelance graphic design and website stuff.

I've really only hung out with one group of friends this summer, well more like a family. I went camping for a whole week during july. I have been to the lake numerous times to wakeboard. Been to several parties and get togethers. All and all a pretty decent summer.

Sister is getting married on October 1st, then moving to Virgina. She'll work as an RN, and her Husband will be finishing out his Navy service.

Now the hitch.... I am looking to my next mountain to climb. I am intrested in my good friends Julia, who I happen to be friends with her 2 brothers also. She happens to be 23, and I am 20. But we kinda have a benefriends agreement going on, but you know that whole "no feeling stipulation is kinda in play". Maybe its the fact we've been friends for awhile, and I am close to her whole family, but this girl is just plain awesome and I would be intrested in a relationship if things were right.

So thats the news...

Wouldn't that be "mountains"? At least two of them, anyway.

With a flat valley, then some brush to reveal a stream down the mountains.

Unless you two get married you KNOW there will be some changes with your friend relationship with the brothers. Thats a tight rope to walk. Unless you decide you wouldnt mind if a bad breakup meant you would never hang out with any of them again, i wouldnt do it.

Or you get your ass beat if you cheat on her.

Flip wrote:Unless you two get married you KNOW there will be some changes with your friend relationship with the brothers. Thats a tight rope to walk. Unless you decide you wouldnt mind if a bad breakup meant you would never hang out with any of them again, i wouldnt do it.

Thats always been the worst scenario of ever dating her, but like I said were still just friends.

You can ignore my previous posts, I felt silly posting them. Anyway, the thing is if a girl wants to just be benefriends, I think that's all it will be. If you try and act on your feelings though you may end up in a sense, shooting yourself in the foot with her. She's made it clear that there is no emotion, no strings right? She's 23 years old and girls this age aren't really looking to be tied down if they are single (college women especially). She is getting towards the end of the party years but she may not want to let go of the independence that comes from being single quite yet.

What this all boils down to is she might think you are attractive, but I don't think she sees you as a long term boyfriend. Your best bet to avoid heartbreak and the like is to just find someone else.