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  • Reading Week reunion, 5 years since High School. It's funny to see how peoples real perspectives on people were back then...

  • Somehow, we still tolerate each other. Eventually this will be the only forum left.
Somehow, we still tolerate each other. Eventually this will be the only forum left.
 #14660  by Julius Seeker
 Sun Feb 22, 2004 12:28 pm
<div style='font: 12pt ; text-align: left; '>Attach New Poll | Logoth Posted: Feb 22 2004, 11:47 AM First Consul group: High Council Posts: 152


I mean, I was certain that I was the guy that everyone loved, I was always voted class president, I had my own band, and a lot of other things going. No one really ever said anything negative about me, and everyone alays seemed happy to talk to me. I wasn't in any really particular clique or anything, I had my own tight knit group of friends, but we never ever stuck to ourselves, we were friends with everyone. Apparently though, I stepped on some toes over the years; and I didn't really think I did. I know a lot of people probably won't care to hear this, but I know some of you will find it of at least some interest.

Now Reading week I guess is what you in the US call Spring Break. Spring doesn't really begin until March anyways, right now it is the middle of the winter. Anyways, Stephane (strait blonde hair, blue eyed, high school hot chick) came up from Halifax, and she's staying over at our place (she was prom queen and all that throughout High School, I went out with her for a few weeks, but we broke up because of boredom with each other; we wanted different things from the relationship, she wanted some sort of Dawsons Creek thing whereas I just wanted to have a lot of fun, that's pretty much where I thought it ended), anyways, her and Vanessa (The wife, who some of you have met, Smasher and Candy did back in December when we had the Utopia Hockey game over in Moncton NB Canada, along with a few other people who aren't in LGC; fun times) get along fairly well and they usually have a "girls night out" or a "girls night in" whenever she's around. Anyways, we ended up going out to the Campus bar for Trivia because she was over (something I normally won't do, but a lot of people go weekly like it's a religion). We bumped into Tammy and a huge group of people from my High School, she was having a birthday party (I didn't know that she was in town, she was younger than Steph and I). Among them was a girl from High School by the name of Bev, and a guy who I knew way back in Junior High (but didn't really remember).

Anyways, on that night, Bev had told me I had changed quite a bit (I didn't think I had). I believe her words to describe me in High School were "You were a really fucking conceited bastard in High School". Funny thing is that the people around me all agreed, I don't know if everyone did, I wasn't going to enquire around about it. Even Steph said "yeah you were conceited, but there's nothing wrong with that". I didn't see myself as conceited at all, not in the slightest, in fact it was quite the opposite, I always pictured myself as a rather extroverted person, and I was, and that was where it ended.

Now the guy Andrew that Bev was with, apparently I gave him the nickname "Retardo" in Junior High, and I was a real bastard to him. Honestly, I don't remember much of that at all; most of what I remembered from Junior High was track and field, Hockey, and ripped jeans, sprinting was always the most important thing to me; it was to the point where I measured a persons value based on how fast they could run and I honestly believed it (something I probably picked up when I was really young). I played soccer and basketball in those grades as well, but I didn't really like either sport all that much, and didn't put as much effort or training into them. And well, he knew me in High School, he used to hate me and thought I was a gigantic prick =) I know that I was a prick in Junior High, but I didn't really think anyone hated me; and he said that I often made his life a living hell, and well, I don't really remember that; people tend to exagerate on a lot of things. I just kind of put it off as, "well that was then, and that was over 10 years ago".

The biggest surprise came when I was talking to Steph later (we were walking back to my place and got split up from everyone else, it was snowing fairly hard, and a bunch of people just went back to the Campus residences so we got split up from everyone.), and she said that a lot of the girls didn't like me either. Apparently she said I was a huge player and just wanted to get in her pants. I of course denied it, but I couldn't really talk my way out of it by this point. Also that I really hurt her back in high school (this by now was a really drunken conversation, a lot of tears and crap involved). She was a popular girl, but I was her first boyfriend and she has had a lot less than you might imagine. Apparently she wasn't bored with the relationship, she just had all these things that she "expected" were going to happen and I dissapointed her; when we broke up, she cried for a month; but in my own defense, I told her that I thought she was bored with the thing, she said she was. That's the difference between guys and girls, girls like to hold back a lot of those important feelings and expect us to figure them out on our own. We sat for a while out on a gazebo out in the snow, and talked for about 20 minutes, until she got too cold, and then we headed back into my place; and I'm going to have to say that it was about the most intense conversation that me and her ever did have in the whole 8 years or so I've known her. It was just extremely interesting, I find, to finally find out how she really felt, because I think that me and her could have actually worked out in High School if we had just got that really more out into the open; because seriously, I of course was going to make assumptions based on her actions. In the end, I couldn't help but to feel a bit dissapointed in how things happened, but in the end I suppose it may have been for the best.

But yeah, it's been five years, and well, it's a bit easier to see now that I wasn't really seen as the person who I thought myself to be. Of course, I was just being human, we are all just human, and different people have different perceptions on things. More than anything I just found this interesting because it gives a different sort of view on myself, a relatively foreign one compared to my own perceptions; especially considering that I was almost the type of person who I really thought I didn't like (even though a lot of people I admired on TV and such were just like that, now that I think about it; My favourite shows growing up were the Fresh Prince of Bel Air and Seinfeld). Has anyone else really talked to anyone they knew from a while ago? And have you noticed any real change in them, or do you perceive them differently than they do themselves?</div>
 #14661  by Kupek
 Sun Feb 22, 2004 1:31 pm
<div style='font: 10pt verdana; text-align: left; padding: 0% 10% 0% 10%; '>This isn't an insult; notice that I haven't bothered to trade insults with your for quite some time. But I felt that in this post, you were sincere. People didn't see you as you saw yourself, and it bothers you. You should take a look at yourself now, too. Talk to people you know now. Seriously think about how you act and how you treat other people.

As for me, the close friends of mine from high school, I still see with regularity. I'm more self-confident know, more comfortable with who and what I am. There are quite a lot of people from high school that I knew pretty well - people on newspaper staff, for example - that I haven't seen since graduation. I often wonder how they'd react to me now. Physically, I know I look quite a bit different, but I wonder if they'd notice personality changes as well.</div>

 #14663  by Anarky
 Sun Feb 22, 2004 3:56 pm
<div style='font: 11pt ; text-align: left; '>I'm in my first year of college, and I have already begun to see some people change, but quite a few of them still seem like the same....</div>

 #14665  by Ganath
 Sun Feb 22, 2004 7:37 pm
<div style='font: 9pt ; text-align: left; '>It's just a year though, in a few more it'll be more noticeable I'm sure. BTW, how is college going for you? It's been a while since I've talked to you man, even given that I hardly talk anyway.</div>

 #14666  by Eric
 Sun Feb 22, 2004 9:03 pm
<div style='font: 11pt ; text-align: left; '>You? "a fucking conceited bastard!"?! No way!!!! :P J/K. We're cool mayne.</div>