Question about dating 2 people at the same time

[Anarky]

Okay I have always been the kind of guy who only dates one girl at a time, even if it's in the beginning stages of a possible relationship.

Now currently I am dating a girl at school, but my luck is she is seeing me and someone else. We both know about the other. Nothing is too serious at the moment, but this is one of those situations I never enjoy. If anyone remembers last year when i dated the chick with the boyfriend this is the number 1 situation I wish to avoid. This resembles it ... so it is kinda like history repeating itself.

So i think I am giving it a week or 2 more and if she is still dating guy 2, fuck it. I do not like being played.

I kinda wonder if any of you ever date 2 people at the same time to come to some decision, or is that a greedy way of dating?

[Andrew, Killer Bee]

I've done fuck all dating, but it does seem greedy to me. Once you get past the third date with anybody, I think you should probably stick with that one person only. If you're not considering them exclusively at that point, I don't think you're that into them. That, or you're a jerk :).

[Eric]

Silly noobs with your low post count....

Anyway, yeah you don't want to set yourself up for a situation of hurt. If you haven't tapped that ass, and she's leading you on, bounce!

[Kupek]

It's not worth the drama.

[Flip]

It's not worth the drama.

Drama is fun, if nothing else interesting is going on in your life right now and you soon realize you dont like the girl you may as well stick around for the free poontang until something better catches your eye.

[Nev]

Three-way! Oh wait, that's supposed to be two girls and one guy, isn't it?

(chuckles) I love the internet. Shit that'll get you killed in real life...

Anarky: I'm just playing around. Don't take it too seriously. It was the first thing that came into my head.

[the Gray]

I'm reminded of a Tucker Max story.

How can you know when you are out with her, and maybe kiss her at the end of the date, that she hasn't already gone over to the other guys place earlier for a 'quickie'? Or worse, just sucked the chrome off the trailer hitch?

Not worth the mental fuckupitude in my opinion. This girl sounds like she's enjoying playing you guys for her attention/affection.

[Anarky]

Silly noobs with your low post count....

Anyway, yeah you don't want to set yourself up for a situation of hurt. If you haven't tapped that ass, and she's leading you on, bounce!

lol... yeah I kinda need to tap it still, she is part Krill and has quite the ass to tap



I thank you all for the input, we talked about things a lil bit last night. I can kinda see some validity in dating 2 people to see what you want, but that can't go past a certain point either i think (oral or sex). Hmmm...

[Imakeholesinu]

I'd make her choose or choose for her (in other words leave) if she can't make up her fucking mind.

<------------ To bad those kinda cloud our judgement sometimes.

[Shellie]

Three-way! Oh wait, that's supposed to be two girls and one guy, isn't it?

Heh, why's it gotta be 2 girls and a guy??

[Nev]

guys don't really do that, in my experience, though my experience is rather limited...

but i think this may be getting a little out of the bounds of propriety actually, and i think i was out of line to post that in the first place.

sorry!

[Eric]

Awwww don't be a wuss, 2 girls and 1 guy is a wonderful thing. Trust me.

[the Gray]

Propriety? Here?

We've known each other way too fricking long to take offense at what is said by anyone here. Take Seeker for example!

[Nev]

at long last, a place to let my dionysian urges run wild and free!

[Julius Seeker]

There's nothing wrong with dating two girls at once, just make sure it is not at the same time (it works in grade 1, but after that it's hell). I think it is more acceptable at younger ages; like in Junior High to date multiple girls, but then in High School it becomes less appropriate, and then perfectly fine again once University roles around. Though in University, I think dating multiple girls should only be a temporary thing in our society.

I still think society is stupid in that way though, monogamy can get boring, whereas polygamy can be a lot of fun (except in an abusive mormon culture). Multiple person relationships are an excellent idea, especially if everyone gets along perfectly.

[SineSwiper]

The more polygamic it gets, the more fragile it can become. Polygamy only works if everybody loves everybody else. The mormon thing doesn't work because the guy gets 2+ wifes that he may (or may not) love, but the women usually aren't bi-sexual, so they don't love each other. Even in the situation where you do have all three of them love each other, one may get jealous of the other and/or think that one loves him/her more than the other.

I saw part of a show about polygamy that had some interesting info. I've also heard about a story about three lesbians who married each other. Homosexuals have that advantage of being able to fall into an successful polygamic relationship easier than heretos, because the later requires at least two bisexuals.

[Nev]

The more polygamic it gets, the more fragile it can become. Polygamy only works if everybody loves everybody else. The mormon thing doesn't work because the guy gets 2+ wifes that he may (or may not) love, but the women usually aren't bi-sexual, so they don't love each other. Even in the situation where you do have all three of them love each other, one may get jealous of the other and/or think that one loves him/her more than the other.

I saw part of a show about polygamy that had some interesting info. I've also heard about a story about three lesbians who married each other. Homosexuals have that advantage of being able to fall into an successful polygamic relationship easier than heretos, because the later requires at least two bisexuals.

you ever read stranger in a strange land, sine?

[SineSwiper]

How can you know when you are out with her, and maybe kiss her at the end of the date, that she hasn't already gone over to the other guys place earlier for a 'quickie'? Or worse, just sucked the chrome off the trailer hitch?

And how do you know the guy hadn't done the same? I really hate that behavior of how a chick sucking some guy's dick is somehow permanently etched into her mouth for all time. You're not kissing 36 dicks, okay.

you ever read stranger in a strange land, sine?

Nope, I didn't know it was about polygamy.

[Nev]

not polygamy in the classic sense, but there's quite a bit of free love stuff explored at the end.

[the Gray]

Notice I said 'Earlier' Sine, not days or weeks before! Ie, Anarky goes out on a date with her, and unbeknownst to him she's been over to the other guys place right beforehand. It's happened I'm sure. (not to Anarky, but someone)

That said, I'm sure it would be the same for a Chick dating a guy that was seeing multiple women. I just don't need that kind of mindfuck myself.