Update, I was right to be concerned.

[the Gray]

So, I decided to get to the heart of it and ask the girl some very pointed questions yesterday. I didn't get the answers I wanted, but in another light I did. I've had the wool pulled over my eyes too many times in the past that I didn't want it to happen again.
I still feel like shit right now as it's still sucks when this happens after you've invested your time and emotions.

Nice to know I'm not completely paranoid however. Seems I've learned some of the signals from my past fuckups.

[Lox]

Sorry to hear that, man.

I know how that feels. Most guys probably do at one time or another.

I'm going through my own crap right now. Nothing even close to that, but there's always something.

[Kupek]

That's horrible, but at least you're dealing with it now and not a few months from now. And you did it the best way: you talked to her about it.

[Imakeholesinu]

As a man who has been in your position a many of times in his college career, the advice I have to offer is this. Never think about her, never talk to her, just cut her off. She is as good as dead to you man since you can't get what you want from her. No point in being 'friends' that's just a slap in the face when she comes over and pours all her baggage all over your room and wants to watch you clean it up.

So basically cut her off, send her packing and move on. Best way to move on, go out with the guys, get hammered, make an ass out of yourself in front of some chick and maybe you'll get to make out with her on a couch in some house party somewhere. It'll get your mind off the other bitch that's for sure.

Sorry I'm so hostile and cynical, it's what I've become from being in the situation you've described many many times. Hope it helps though.

[the Gray]

Heh, Barret you don't have to worry. I have the same rules from my previous attrocities.

He's a snippet from my final email to her.

"For now I don't think it's a good idea to keep emailing etc. (remove me from the mass emails) For a good long time I think. Inevitably we'll come in contact again due to our families connections, but I don't want to converse with you for at least 4 months. May seem Harsh, but it helps prevent some mental anguish later."

Yeah, I softened it at the end. But I'm no longer a complete idiot. I can recognize when it's over now. And Barret, I'm doing that other bit this weekend likely. Going on a Snowboarding weekend for the first time in many years. So I'm sure to make an ass of myself. Drunkeness will ensue later to dull my pain (physical) and if I'm lucky enough I'll find another physical outlet like you described.

To Kupek & Lox, thanks for your advice earlier. Appreciated.

[Lox]

To Kupek & Lox, thanks for your advice earlier. Appreciated.

No problem. Glad we could be of help. This stuff is so tough to go through. It's nice to have people to talk with.

[Imakeholesinu]

"For now I don't think it's a good idea to keep emailing etc. (remove me from the mass emails) For a good long time I think. Inevitably we'll come in contact again due to our families connections, but I don't want to converse with you for at least 4 months. May seem Harsh, but it helps prevent some mental anguish later."

Yeah, I softened it at the end. But I'm no longer a complete idiot. I can recognize when it's over now.

Timelimits suck, and even though you won't abide by this I personally would have just stopped e-mailing, returning phone calls and all that jazz completely. Usually it takes about 2 or 3 days to catch on, then you get a really nasty voicemail. If you see her on campus then you won't have to worry about talking to her because she won't talk to you, unless you are by yourself and she is too. I may take it the extra step but hey, I get what I want out of it don't I? You were never an idiot, just a bit naive and maybe thinking alittle to much with your smaller head or perhaps even your heart (done both, you ain't alone) and unfortunately us 'nice guys' that are 'too nice to date' still fucking finish last.

I'm doing that other bit this weekend likely. Going on a Snowboarding weekend for the first time in many years. So I'm sure to make an ass of myself. Drunkeness will ensue later to dull my pain (physical) and if I'm lucky enough I'll find another physical outlet like you described.

Snoogins, snowboarder chicks are always lookin for a good time. *sniff sniff* do I smell hot tub? Aren't we having fun at punning now? (pain...lol). Anyway, I'm out, time for family guy.